Agri agony aunt: ‘I am in love with an airhead’

Liewe Lulu is Food For Mzansi’s no-holds-barred agri agony aunty. While she receives many letters from across South Africa, preference is given to those who are working in the agricultural sector. Yes, farmers have issues too, and Liewe Lulu’s got the tissues

does not know whether she is doing too much or too little when dealing with her new man. Does Liewe Lulu, everyone's favourite agony aunt, have guidance to offer for her sanity? Photo: Food For Mzansi

An edgy girlfriend does not know whether she too critical of her new man. Does Liewe Lulu, everyone's favourite agony aunt, have guidance to offer for her sanity? Photo: Food For Mzansi

Airhead from Matatiele, Eastern Cape writes…

I may just have met the man of my dreams. He is handsome, great in bed [I get it daily], kind, generous, open-minded and accepting of my passions. Men like him are hard to come by for us farmers.

He works hard, and he is always there for my friends and family. The cherry on top is that he is also funny and fun, and he makes me laugh. I feel like he could be my husband and my baby daddy one day.  

There is one tiny flaw, though. He is kind of an airhead. He can hold his own in a conversation but sometimes the things he says make me cringe and question his intelligence. The man I was seeing before him stimulated my mind, but he was a cheater and an ass who used to belittle me and make me feel so unworthy. New bae, however, makes me feel safe and challenges me to be better. I hope I’m not being the airhead by even asking if I should dump him and wait for someone who can stimulate my intellect?

My dearest Airhead

No man, ngwaneso , let Liewe Lulu set you straight. I mean, what’s an IQ when the man is hardworking, funny and generous in the sack? And he is the airhead? No, you are, you nincompoop. Bathong.

Who says that intelligence is knowing random facts about anything and everything, and solving math equations at lightning speed? You don’t need to have a high IQ to be considered a highly intelligent person. In fact the experts say there are so many more layers to it.

A highly intelligent person is one who is flexible in their thinking and can adapt to changes, they think before they speak or act, and they’re able to effectively manage their emotions.

They also have several different types of intelligence, including but not limited to intellectual, social and emotional intelligence.

Jacks-of-all-trades are always better than masters of one.

Now on to Liewe Lulu’s guide for picking the right boyfriend for nincompoops – and yes again, you are the nincompoop.  

Get a grip, Airhead.

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Liewe Lulu is Food For Mzansi’s agri agony aunty. The content in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical and/or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition.
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