Insecure from Bloemfontein writes…
I am marrying an amazing woman. We have been in a relationship for 10 years and have a daughter together. We had our bachelor and bachelorette parties a week apart. The one rule we made was to bring no evidence from these nights into our home.
I mean, we all know what happens at these things, and I genuinely did not want to know. Her friend posted a story of my future wife getting a lap dance from a gentleman while they were out for drinks. Seeing this has made me feel insecure. I told her this and she said that there is nothing to hide. Am I overreacting? We still have to get married. We are business owners and farm with chickens.
My dearest Insecure
Babes, it’s not uncommon for partners to feel insecure in a relationship. We have all been there at one point or another. Akere relationships are not always happy days, there will always be just that a hint of uncertainty. It is overwhelming but it is up to you to not hit a downward spiral.
Cold feet before your wedding is a little “suspish” for Liewe Lulu. Marriage is a huge commitment. And sometimes this starts to become clear how big a commitment it is when you get a bit closer to the day and everything starts to feel a lot more real.
Doubts are unpleasant to say the least. Those mind intruders make you feel feel anxious and unhappy, and may cause you to question things that, up until this point, you may have felt pretty secure about. Also, the fact that you’re experiencing doubts at all can add another layer of anxiety, making you feel like there must be something seriously wrong.
Let it go or seek help
While the fact that your fiancée brought home “souvenirs” is a bummer, you are going to have to make a choice. Do you trust her? Let it go and let flow, or visit your local shrink. Because without trust, your relationship will not survive.
If this has truly affected your self-esteem, you may have to add one more item to the cost of your big I-do’s with some therapy sessions to help you straighten out your thinking nana.