Complicated Heart from Margate in Kwa-Zulu Natal writes…. 

I’m a 28-year-old farmer looking to build a relationship with my best friend in Joburg. Lerato and I met 10 years ago, and we hit it off from day one. I’ve dated a few women, and honestly none compare to her. She makes me laugh and she’s quite the looker. It’s safe to say we just vibe well.  

We’ve recently started exploring the prospects of turning our friendship into a relationship, but I’m not so sure about how we will make the long-distance thing work.  

I travel to see her as much as I can, but as a farmer my time is limited. I really miss her, and she totally understands my passion for farming – that’s part of the reason why I am so in love with her.  

But how do I make this long-distance thing work? Is love enough to fuel a long-distance relationship? Please help…  

My Dearest Complicated Heart… 

Aaarrwwww your love story is definitely one for the books. You owe it to yourself to explore this long-distance relationship. I’ve heard too many love stories like yours always filled with regrets and haunted by unanswered questions, like “what if I allow myself to take this chance and it doesn’t work”?  

But that’s just what it is – what ifs. What if doesn’t mean it will fail, its just a negative scenario we make up in our heads to shield ourselves from heartache and disappointment. 

As they say on the Twittersphere, “if I die, I die”. You honestly have nothing to lose. Making a long-distance relationship work is all about effort and intimacy. When I say intimacy, I don’t mean sex, I mean intimacy on an emotional level. Understanding how she wants to be loved and her in turn understanding how you want to be loved that’s the secret. 

Liewe Lulu loves LOVE and I say go for it! You love Lerato and owe it to yourselves to explore your feelings.