Hopelessly in Love from Kroonstad in the Free State writes…
Liewe Lulu,
I feel so hopeless. I met my current girlfriend in February at the beer festival in Clarens and we hit it off right away. Since then it has been three months of us spending time together and regularly making efforts in getting to know each other.
I have enjoyed every moment with her and I would like to believe that she has as well. But recently I have not liked this new side of her that I am seeing.
She is constantly moody, has no time to connect with me for our lockdown dates and is constantly making up excuses to cut short whatever communication we do have. I feel like she is avoiding me and fear that she has even fallen out of love me. How can I reignite the spark? I have done nothing wrong and am extremely confused about this changed behaviour. Please help.
My Dearest Hopelessly in Love
Unreciprocated love is a real thing, darling. And I fear that may be the case with your current situation.
As much as you want love to be returned in the same ways that you are giving it, it cannot be forced.
With the right person, love is organic. The wrong person will actively show you that they don’t want to love you back through their actions. It is unfortunate that the period of “falling out of love” is one that is riddled with confusion, as you realize and come to terms with the fact that feelings have changed.
There is no stopping this train when it comes. You have to come to grips with it and move on.
It is heart–breaking when you find yourself in this position. It is almost like you have spent three months wasting feelings on a person who couldn’t be bothered to reciprocate those feelings that you so badly want to share. But the right person will embrace you whole–heartedly, and if this relationship has reached its tragic end, let it be, babes.
