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Farmer torn between career and motherhood

Liewe Lulu is Food For Mzansi’s no-holds-barred agri agony aunty. While she receives many letters from across South Africa, preference is given to those who are working in the agricultural sector. Yes, farmers have issues too, and Liewe Lulu’s got the tissues

Compromising mother hen in Bloemfontein writes

I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy just four months ago. I am 35 and would like to get pregnant again soon, but I am worried that it will affect my business.

Alongside my husband of five years, I run a growing poultry business. My pregnancy reminded me that while men and women farmers are equal, there is great power as well as limits to being a female farmer.

It is 2021 and I wish I did not feel the way, but I do. I am caught in between my career and building my family. I am scared that by building this enterprise to leave a legacy for my children I am also not being a good mother to my son and a good wife to my husband.

Why must women still be the ones to compromise family or professional goals Lulz? Is it so wrong for me to want both?

My Dearest Hen

I think you are asking the wrong question, my love. The only reason to have kids is to enjoy them. Right?

The only thing that should matter to you is how much more enjoyment you can stand? And if your answer is more tiny humans then by all means, procreate.

The idea of bringing another human life into the world and the joy of seeing that tiny person grow through life is a powerful motivator for having a child.

Farming as a mother of a toddler and possibly another infant is a valorous deed. You are not only raising little humans, but you are growing food for the nation.

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Like you said it is 2021, you can do anything your heart desires, my babe. 20 000 women did not march to the Union Buildings for nothing. Women do not hold the sole responsibility of having children just because men cannot birth them or breastfeed them.

Akere, you decided to become parents together. It takes two to create a new life and it takes a village to raise children. Support structure is crucial to raising a family.

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Liewe Lulu is Food For Mzansi’s agri agony aunty. The content in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical and/or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition.

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