Baeless in a pandemic from Kakamas in the Northern Cape writes…
Liewe Lulu, Kagiso and I met in December last year and we’ve been inseparable ever since. We haven’t moved in together yet, but we spend most weekends together.
I invited him to stay at my place during the 21-day lockdown and he had agreed but canceled at the last minute. Girl, the separation anxiety is tough and to top it all he can’t even tell me why he chickened out at the last minute.
Bae is a farmer and I know he needs to work during the lockdown, but I am livid. I’m starting to question his commitment to this relationship and if I’m investing more than he is. I mean does he even love me if he won’t even spend 21 days with me? Please help, I hope I’m not wasting my time with this man?
My Dearest Baeless in a pandemic….
Darling, get a grip. We’re in the middle of a pandemic. Physical distancing is key so just take deep breaths, everything will be alright. Your man is doing important work, hey. He’s feeding the nation.
You need to re-shift your focus on building the connection with Katlego nana, you clearly love this man otherwise you wouldn’t be so touched on your studio.
It’s rubbish that he blew you off at the last minute and he should do better as a person and as a boyfriend and rather over-communicate changes in schedules. Communication is key, so tell him how you feel – your grievances and expectations in the three weeks you will be apart.
Yes, as a farmer he is doing the most right now, but arrange clear, set times that are dedicated to your relationship. If he fails to adhere, then it is a clear indication that he has no interest in being with you.
This is the time where you will get your definitive answers about whether he’s really into you or not. Because, hey, actions speak louder than words, now more than ever.